I had the affair and now my marriage appears Over

[SirPrizeMe]

Peter, I'm glad you're deciding to do the right thing.
A couple comments and a question.

first, the Q: why stop? What made you see the light? You explained why your W cut the cord - the OW's ex called her and ratted you out. She got fed up. Ok, that's clear.

Why the change of heart in you? Why?
why did you not put a stop to it 3 months earlier? a year earlier? 2 years and 364 days earlier? Why now? Why this time, when your W already knew about the affair, why did this information make you want to quit?

Reason I ask: I want some of what you got, for my wife !

Couple comments:

• I hate what you've done. I'm glad people are here supporting you. But you've done something horrible. It hurts me to just read about it. I don't want to beat you up, but. . . you need to shut up about your fears and wants and needs. Shut up and start doing the right thing. every day. in every way.
• edie is right - it's not fair to W to comfort you at this time. You're going to have to be stronger.

You've got work to do.