Ongoing affair, D papers filed, advice wanted

[SirPrizeMe]

re-reading what I wrote, I guess I was not clear. I have known about the affair, for 18 months, but I thought it had been "over" for some time. (She said so) In actuality, it is still happening.

I lost my copy of DR.

What do I do about an affair that is still happening?

Maybe the email should be "It was a great gift for me, to spend time all together with you and the kids on Christmas, it meant a lot to me. thanks for making that happen!" (eg, don't mention the affair, which continues to this day as I learned tonight)


ps: we are separated, I am out of the house, she is still in it, she gets to do as she chooses.