Waiting for WAW to come back, patience is a virtue

[DaveJ]

Well, it's been kind of a crappy day. First, W has sent off the D papers to an online processor. So the process has started....

Anyhow, W found out that potential OM does not want to talk her or give her an explanation of why he won't talk to her. So she's totally down about it. Ironically I don't really feel great about it. To me, if it's not him, it'll be someone else. It makes me sad that W has chose to do this and that she's hurting now. It does break my heart to see that she's hurting despite the situation. I'm not really sure what to say to her. I'm very frustrated since here you have a guy that loves her and cares about her and would do anything for her, yet she sits there complains about no-one loves her and she'll be alone for the rest of her life. *roll eyes*. And of course there's no way I will say, honey, it's ok, you'll find somebody better. Well, uh...the better somebody is ME!

Also today I realize a bit more how much anger she's holding in. She holds all that in and doesn't usually show it. So it's very misleading to me. She said something along the line of with the way she feels now, even if she's still alone in 3 years she would rather be alone than get back with me. *sigh* How can anyone be so bitter and hold that much anger?

So then later on MIL called and had a short conversation with W. Basically MIL wanted to talk to the kids, and since the kids are getting to bed, MIL said she'll call the next day. Well, W kinda guessed I talked to MIL the night before and presumed MIL is pissed at her now. So she blows the cap on me and tells me I ruined their mother/daughter relationship. All I said to MIL was that I wasn't ok with the divorce and I didn't want one. W previously told MIL that everyone's ok with it. Probably she feels like she's a liar now. Well, I'm not gonna lie to the MIL and tell her I'm ok with the divorce when I'm not. I ended up calling MIL to make sure she wasn't angry and she wasn't. She laughed and said she just thought W was busy putting the kids to bed and so she said she'll call tomorrow. MIL just wanted to know what the kids got for xmas. Sheesh! Talk about major misunderstanding. But of course W is still pissed at me anyways.