See I think he really needs to get into counseling! Do you know my head strong husband didn't get into counseling. Still hope he does. But he did go to the doctor and get something for his depression/nerves. Which is huge for him.
Because to like you it wasn't so much I was running although he could make me think that. If you are like me your a face value kind of person. Your an involved mom, and you work. Women like us are caring and loving. We would bend over backwards if we were needed. But hell LWB that person HAS to come to us and say something. Not act as if!! Then give us the blame for the way they were feeling. Dang communication is so important in a marriage. Then when the person who wasn't communicating doesn't, then wants to blame us. UGH! It makes you want to scream. So sure you could have maybe done things differently if you would have known. But he also should have opened his mouth. I am sure you were working hard trying to support your family. Don't let him make you think you abandoned him. You were busting your azz to put food on the table.
It's kind of like this...when my kid's need something they tell me. If they had a bad day they vent to me or tell me. If something made them sad they come to me for a hug and a cup of cocoa and we talk. This is what I mean about face value. I can be there because I am aware. They tell me. Oh how life would be so much easier if all adults could have the innocent nature of children.
