I'm a newbie-H is MLC-Lovely!!!

[missmyfriend]

MrsLBW,

Most people would not stand for one minute let alone for several months. You have stood for some reason known only to you. I respect that.

I hope I didn't offend you with asking about your emotion when you spoke to him about dinner. If I may offer something that many do not agree with but while I think it is important to keep boundaries, I am careful, in my sitch, not to make my W feel that she has gone too far and that she cannot come back or feel welcome in our home.

I don't see my wife being a "cake eater" so I am not concerned about giving her the impression her actions are okay. She knows that I do not agree with her choices. If your H is the type to be a cake eater, you probably need a defined boundary that it is your house and you run it your way.

I have had to be firm in the way I raise the children. She used to be in line with me (or I could say I was in line with her methods) but she has changed her POV. I have continued with how the woman I married wanted to raise our children, morally and otherwise. We are always complimented about our children so I see no reason to change. It is less confusing for our children.