Going thru the Big D - Aggressive or Not Aggressiv

[rogerrespondent]

I want her to confide in me again. I want her to show some sort of emotion that isn't driven by money throughout all this...I want her call me and ask me if I want to go to dinner. I want to go beyond a simple kiss good night when I drop her off ...I want her to initiate sex (with me this time)...her issues are this
1) I don't make her happy anymore and she needs to be with someone who makes her happy because she should not be expected to be miserable her whole life (thank you for that)
2) She has one close friend who has 666 tattooed under her hair line some where
3) She thinks when we separated a year ago for awhile and while we were in counseling she had an affair that caused her to want to stop going to counseling and pursue Mr. right now for 3-4 months and during that time she thought my response to all of this was wrong and that I tried to ruin her life. what I did was file for divorce amazing thing was that as soon as I shared with her the new Mr. Wonderful's credit report (396 beacon ..not a typo) he immediately stopped making her happy.) so we reconciled and have struggled for this last year and then the weekend after what i thought was a break through the following Monday her attorney filed she had seen him on the Friday before the breakthrough and the whole great weekend we shared she knew that Monday was d day. She will only go to counseling if it's divorce counseling.
4) I have been trying to follow the game plan in (edited by sg) and its been a couple of weeks now and nothing ...i am in a sticky situation with the court stuff and the books I have read all say to get an attorney to be the bad guy for me ..
The reason she gave me once for not wanting to do any couples stuff (therapy workshop stuff) is because she knew I wanted to and no one could control her ... questions?? thanks for the help and lending a sympathetic ear but if you need to let me have it then please let er rip. She just got here to go to dinner out together tonight ...i will check in when I get back in because I will niot be going to her place even if she asks ...which she wont