See I think he was at a low. No job, no money to provide for his family. He was a stay at home mom sort of speak. I think his ego got damaged. Suddenly there you are making sure food was on the table. With your life. With direction and an outside life if want to call work that. He started resenting you. Instead of appreciating that it was you holding things together financially. I could be way off base. But it sounds like that could have been what happened.
Before our eyes, but before we could see it happening...
HIM: *The happy to be home with my kids (SAHD) turned into depression. *The being proud of his wife for working turned into resentment/jealousy because of the excitement of her job and the 'adult' interaction. *Me being too tired for even a date or sex at times. Him being home, waiting for me. Me wanting sleep. He started going out because he was couped up.
ME: *Hard for me to watch him be depressed. I focused more on his daily moods (trying to cheer him up) than on trying to figure out what was really going on. *Used work as an escape from him and his 'down' moods'. *Obsessed about money and worked as much overtime as possible, thinking he would be so proud. Turns out he felt abandoned and didn't care about the extra money. But never said anything, just encouraged me.
I am so glad your H admitted saying those things weren't true. I totally understand your point of view though. The hurt of what H said/says to me sticks. I don't say nasty things to him (even if I think them), because I love him and don't want to hurt him more. He is the opposite right now, will strike whenever he can....
