I am sure he does feel some kind of pain. Or has had some disappointments with you that are valid.
I know he is in so much pain, even before the A. I did some things that weren't right (denied his depression, ran from him instead of supporting him...easier at the time). I have owned up to the things I have done wrong, and apologized numerous times. He has accepted my apology but states its too late. He has even said "I know blaming you 100% for this is wrong, and I need to stop...".
He even admits its easier to blame me. BUT...he never apologizes for what he has done, we are divorced in his heart, and its my fault for 'leaving him' when he needed me the most. He considers his pain of being 'ignored' by me MORE painful than what he is doing to me now.... He blames me for many things I have no control over (my mother and her 'crazy' ways, the way a friend of ours treated him in a business venture, something my brother did...) and I had enough of that and yelled one night that those were lousy reasons for leaving me since I can't control what people do around me..
