One more thing I want to ad try and not let him get to you about the accusing he is doing. Because I have heard you say you know you aren't perfect. But you are nowhere near the woman he is making you out to be. I think I have told you this before but my husband also had hatred. He said just the meanest things. He cut me down for the way I was with my family. The way I was with his family. That I was uncaring, cold, spiteful. He criticized the way I did the finances. I mean just trying to think off the top of my head these were some things he cut me down on. I mean just over the top things. Just like your husband I think he was waaaay going over board and blowing things waaay out of proportion. When we started to reconcile this hurt stayed with me, his words. It was something I brought up to him a couple of times. He told me he didn't mean them. He said he felt so low of himself he wanted me to hurt half as much as he was. He has appologized a couple times now. But whew words like that can hurt. I even told him that's where we were different. I wouldn;t want to hurt someone worse then I was hurting. Not someone I vowed to love. That means something to me.
See I think he was at a low. No job, no money to provide for his family. He was a stay at home mom sort of speak. I think his ego got damaged. Suddenly there you are making sure food was on the table. With your life. With direction and an outside life if want to call work that. He started resenting you. Instead of appreciating that it was you holding things together financially. I could be way off base. But it sounds like that could have been what happened.
