I need some input from my friends here. I am supposed to leave on Friday, as is my W to go see her family. I am returning to the East coast for work. I have had a great 6 days here with DW and my beautiful children. Here is my question: Mixed signals. Last week DW accused me of lying about where I was and I resolved the issue. I felt she was actually showing me she was/is fighting or at least her mind has not been made up. I have been trying to build a friendship, but I think I might be pressuring her. I have tried to appear independent and pour all my attention into the kids. A couple of times I have tried to be self depricating and it has CLEARLY frustrated her because she feels I am emotional. That tells me she doesn't like the lack of confidence. How do I not appear to be so insecure? I am emotional and it is what makes me different, according to her(previously) and my therapist and my family. I am not a sap but I am very romantic and attentive. I need to address this issue with my self. Being so far away how do I build a friendship? I try to not talk about me at all, other than just sharing with her, and I try and ask about everything she is doing! I am trying to do what works, but because I never know (even in the not bad times) what she is thinking, I have no idea what works/ed. I tend to hear when she is mad at me that something I did was working. I just feel lost and confused. I know what I want, I just don't know how to be.
