Hurtin, Something I read in the past came to mind as I read this -- not sure if it was posted or talked about here or elsewhere: emotional divorce. It was about separating your emotions from your marriage. Many WAS have already done that - or have convinced themselves that they have, anyway. (I guess DBers call it detaching.)
But when it comes down to it, you just can't turn off emotions over night. It doesn't matter if you're a LBS or a WAS. I'm sure there are some WAS out there who THINK they can just walk away but they're just fooling themselves. There is pain and fear on both sides. It sounds like your W is going through that.
The end of a relationship is like the death of a loved one. It takes a lot of time to get over it. That person will always be with you in some way or another inside, but you have no choice to move on. You only have control over your emotions...
