H and I own business together, still talking

[grid, lost]

Merry Christmas Grid,

Went to SIL's last night, S26 went also. W called him. Had a good time. Saw my niece and nephews, our kids were there also. GS was a wild man!! When leaving W initiated a hug, I had a crock pot in my hands so I couldn't hug her back.

Hi Mike, a Merry Christmas and Happy New Year to you as well.
Sounds as if you had a great Christmas all n all. appears everything went and felt much better than you had expected it to. Worried you won't go to IL, miss out and later learn they missed you. Family is family and we still want to be together on holidays, weapons down. lol
W's responses to you sound very incouraging, at least to me. AS you are always telling me, don't read to much into it and don't expect a lot from S. But a hug and accepted invite to a dinner with you.! This is a material change! Then during the gathering you notice W looking at you. Add the hug at end of the night, sounds very good very good. Remember, DR, tells us friends, then attraction to each other. Maybe just maybe W is curious about this other/new guy, "you"! Certainly hope so for you Mike and your family.
Nice the Christmas gift went over well with your W. Had my concerns, sounds as if she really likes your gift to her.

I told her it was good to see her, she said it was good to see me also.

I was really upbeat and in a really good mood last night. I laughed more than I had in quite a while.Nephews couldn't get over how much weight I'd lost.

This is all nice to hear Mike. You are handling the situations quite well if you were laughing the night away. lol

Made some hamburger potato soup the other day and sent it with D25 to take home for her and W. Gave D25 & D19 a certificate for a date with Dad and Christmas cookies. Gave S25 one for a boys night out with Dad. S26 is coming over New Years Day to exchange.

Aw, you have no idea how much a date with dad will mean to your Ds, best gift ever. I would have loved my dad to give me a gift like that. Christmas cookies are always good too. Have a big sweet tooth since illness. So thought of fresh baked cookies are making me hungry right now !

My Christmas was very nice. Spent the day and evening with family across street, even attended Christmas eve service with them. They have adopted me since learning I have zero family left and of course I am really enjoying and appreciate their kindness. In adition their elder grandmother lives with them. She is quite frail but she and I can sit and talk for hours. I lived with my 90+ yr. grandmother for years so this is so comfortable to visit with an elder. LOL everyone keeps asking me if gramma is driving me crazy and what they don't understand is I'm loving having her to talk with. Gramma loves my dogs!
H is in Md. said he stayed by himself over holiday, I just let it go and said nothing. Believe him as I quite sure he can't bring himself to go around OW family!!! JackA*** Months ago when I was still hurting so much and doing everything wrong. When H mentioned he had never met or gone to OW's parents home. I, of course, said back to him, "what's the matter? Can't quite bring yourself to slap that wedding band on, walk into her dad's house and look him in the eye???" Still makes me boil just repeating the statements.
On more positive, a C the insurance co sent me to. Suggested a book I read and follow exercises the author suggests. Well I have book in hand and working through journal/work book. Some times quite hard, embarrasing, reassuring, and an eye opener. You really have to take a notebook and do the written exercises in order to fully take in the points author is trying to get across. Shortly I will have to call C back and thank him for the book recommendation. Mike not sure if you remember I came in contact with C through the insurance co. handling my medical claim. LOL Never would expect a dr. working for the insurance company would help me out like that. Usually they are working for insurance company and against the claiment.
I'm feeling as if I might be making ground climbing up side of steep hill and now starting to see top outline against skyline.
Ever feel this way Mike? (since W walked out)

Something has come up which really makes me mad and it shouldn't are the relatives or rather a relative. Have an aunt who H and I are very close to. H calls Aunt and chats on telly and aunt never defends me. Or rather wish Aunt won't act towards H as if everything is the same as it was and just fine. You would think she would at least be really mad at H and tell him so. I mean after all he walked out with me so ill, moved in with OW, etc. this really hurts. You have anything like this in your family and how do you feel.??? How do you deal with the relative or are you silent towards issue with relative and just swallow the hurt? anyone else out there reading this post, please post your thoughts.
For that matter what should we expect from relatives towards the WAS????
Guess I'm not saying relative has to take sides but for heaaven sake just going on as if nothing is different and not ,yes, stand up for the injuried party.
grid, lost