how tough for you mako, you've hanged on through hell and hail. My H is in sort of the same sitch, deep inside he wants his family but just can't seem to get himself together, perhaps this is true with her, well, the bipolar diagnose also fits in. But, again, seems like she is trying to run away from herself and doing it unsucesfully (drugs,men).
She feels that she is under constant pressure to make a decision RIGHT NOW but she is obviously stalling as well ============================== Again, I hear your pain, you see your spouse doing the stupidest things and not able to give of herself to your family even though that's what she prob really wants. Is she seeing a therapist weekly? any progress? T is not always effective, my H was seeing a T for months when I found out about the second A, he claimed he was miserable and didn't know what to do (T didn't even think he was depressed).
It is good that you have your back up plan (prepared for D), as much as it will hurt if I ever have to go through a D I know I will do fine with my children. What will be very hard for you now is the trust issue (again, ditto here, trust is in the negatives in my case). It's a blessing the girls have a good dad, I pray that they do not see the uglyness that's taken over their mother.
Hopefully she does admit she has a problem, that's a beginning.
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
