Xmas Eve.. W dropped off the D's and OM was with her. Went to my folks place.. had a great time.. D's got lots of clothes and toys!! W called and was upset we were out so late, we got into it a little, but we quickly cooled off and apologized. She said "I'm sorry it's come to this."
Hmmm...kids up late on Christmas Eve. Ya think?
Originally Posted By: jarhead
Evidently, W and OM went to midnight mass.. surprised they made it out alive.
I'm kinda disappointed that they didn't burst into flames when they crossed the threshold.
Originally Posted By: jarhead
Finally had to call W at 10:30 and "they" were still in bed. Said to bring the D's over by 11.
Show up at 11 and W is wrapped in a towel.. evidently "they" were in the shower. Totally stupid, disrespectful, you name it. I had to sit there keeping the kids away from the presents while "they" got dressed. D5 said "I don't want OM here.. I want you guys" Not much I could say.
I hope that you are documenting this stuff Jar. It is not appropriate for OM to be around your girls in any state of undress--he is not their father. While it doesn't sound like that happened while you were there, you wouldn't be reaching to infer that it might happen when you are not. I'm not implying that the guy is a pervert, but he and your W are not behaving within the appropriate boundries of the situation. Not to mention that it was snotty, childish and unkind behavior.
Originally Posted By: jarhead
I did notice that there were several presents for OM from W. When she finally came out (he came out first) I handed her the gifts from the girls. She of course didn't think to get me anything from the girls.
They will remember that. Your W is sowing the seeds of a very difficult relationship with your Ds. Earlier she whined about their being "your girls," yet she continues to do things that push them closer to you at her expense. Not very forward-thinking IMO.
Originally Posted By: jarhead
I decided to play nice for the holidays.. I replied "You're welcome.. have a merry Xmas"
You go Jar! Way to be a grown up!
Originally Posted By: jarhead
Visited family and friends.. still was the loneliest day I can ever remember.
That stinks...and it will get better with time. You made it through w/o taking backwards steps. That is a victory.
Originally Posted By: jarhead
This morning, W calls.. evidently she's sick.. she has to pick up OM's kids (he had to work today) from his Ex's and was wondering if I could watch our D's for a couple of hours.
What a piece of...work. She wants your help to make her R with OM work, and she uses guilt over your Ds to get you to do it. I don't know how I would handle that in your place. On one hand, it gives you more time with your Ds, but on the other it enables her dysfunctional behavior. Good luck sorting that one out Jar...I don't think there is any right or wrong answer--but document whatever you do.
