thanks for stopping by my thread. Looks like you had a busy few days...
I think you made such a good decision. I know everyone here wants their M to work and some day your W may make the changes she needs, but there is only a certain amount of damage that you can allow yourself to take. It may take a divorce to make her realize what she really lost.
I have had a lot of issue with my dad in the past, so i know how devistating those can be to a woman, but until she makes the decision to work on that herself, there is nothing you will be able to do to "prove" that you aren't going to be like her dad.
I think right now, as much as she may say she thinks you'll leave her (needs to be the victim) and she wants to "find herself" (needs space and time) that she is kinda enjoying the power that comes with controlling you. I don't mean to say anything bad about her, but she's probably spent some time feeling very out of control and up til now, she's had control of you (in a way) because you are still around waiting letting her play her little games. If anything you do is going to affect her changing, i think it may be taking back some of the control of the situation.
Great job not giving into her changes in plan for christmas. She created this little mess, now she gets to deal with it!!
good for you...
If i can't fall in love... I'd like to fall in chocolate! ~ Author Unknown
