If I Could Change The World...

[Hurtin4certain]

No Code... time to go dark. She wants space, give it to her.

If you read any of those "relationship gurus" websites, they all say the same thing... if someone wants space, give it to them. Dont initiate contact AT ALL unless its something you NEED to speak to her about regarding S's.

Even if you dont speak to her for months, its what you need to do. I remember a few years ago when my W and I first separated, she wanted a D and I backed off. We didnt speak for months... then one day, out of the blue, she called me and asked how I was doing. I was SHOCKED.

The point is, she needs time to work all this crap out in her head and she cant do that while you are around.

Show her you are confident enough to honor her wishes, you WILL survive and you dont need her to be happy in your life.

When you do speak to her about your sons, sound happy and dont ask her any questions about her life. Trust me, thats the path I am on now and just recently she started texting me again. Nothing major but thats how it started last time.

You really need to detach big time No Code, truly detach. The WAS almost always come around when you are at the point that you TRULY dont care if they come back or not. Its so weird how that works.

Hang in there man.

H4C