thanks for your reply snodderly, I really hope you are enjoying the festive season and wish you every good luck for the new year. If I could I would just like to ask you one thing, yes we have moved on and moved out of his place, but what are your thoughts on why he won't make the first move with his own son, surely he must be hurting himself by not contacting his own flesh and blood, what are your views, is it the guilt for what he as done, or do you think he is still so wrapped up in his new wife to have any feelings for his son?