Sir- Thanks for posting. You are right, our situations are similar and different! Aren't they all! I know I need to do some thing differently, and I'm working at that. And I try not to get too discouraged, but I would be lying to say that time doesn't take its toll.
I read the SSM forum pretty regularly. And while there are successes, it strikes me that they are very much the exception in cases like this. I read hairdog's situation, and am fairly certain that we are somehow married to the same woman!
My wife is i no hurry to divorce, I think, but it seems to me that it is because she is content with most things as they are. I generally take care of being dad (though she could certainly point out each and every one of my failures), I bring home a paycheck, I do stuff around the house (though even I know not enough) and I don't bother her much. I think it suits her fine, at least consciously. I'm sure there are deeper issues inside, but if she doesn't want to see them, nothing's going to happen there. So I keep plugging. But I think I will have to do something soon to at least rock the boat a little. She is too comfortable with the status quo, and it has been going on too long. As far as what that might be, I jut don't know yet.
