Mopsey, Hope described it correctly. As long as he doesn't have to make a decision, he's fine. However, if he has to make that decision, he will most likely go with the easiest one right now that will not require any work on his part and that is the ow. So, to help you deal w/his indecision about things, you need to detach even further. You don't have to be mean or anything, just don't be so readily available. Yes, he's stuck at this time, but no one can help him, but himself and the therapist.
The comments that the family has made about him having his two women a place to live, etc., leave them outside your home. They don't understand what is going on and until they have walked in your shoes, they won't. Please try not to dwell on what they've said.
Try to enjoy the rest of the holiday. The mass card was a nice gift.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
