He's too scared of himself and his feelings to make a final decision one way or the other, mopsey. That is what is going on; happens a lot. If he doesn't choose, then he can't fail. It's as simple as that. Not excusing him, just trying to explain. The Mass card was really nice. I hope you have a Happy New Year!!
Most of us really marry only once. First love endures, even unto our dying day. And we never really divorce.