i have been married for 15 yrs, she is 41,i am 43 with two kids. basically, i only have sex with my wife only when she wants to. the window of opportunity is only 7-12 days after her period. at that time she 's all lovey-dovey with me. after that window, it's over for the month. she won't do anything while she has her period, and then on the 13-14 day after her period, she goes into pms mode where i can't even discuss sex, or even try to fool around. so my sex schedule goes as follows: she gets her period for 4-5 days: no sex of anykind for those days; sex usually on the 7th-12th day--only once; can't have sex sun.-thurs. because it's a work-week; fri.'s are out because she's too tired from the work week; sat. is 50/50 depending upon the time of the month: if she is getting over her period, it's a go, if it's two weeks after her period, forget it. so basically i have realized that i get sex only once--maybe twice a month if i am so lucky! i truly still love and lust over my wife, but sex for her has become unimportant, and she doesn't see the way i feel. i have told her plenty of times over the years how i feel, but she usually says there's the door if you don't like it. i think it's time for councelling, which i know is long overdue, but does she or i need to see a sex therapist, or a marriage councelor? maybe i am still in overdrive and need another outlet to obsess over.
