Went to SIL's with the kids yesterday. She and H do not get along and she kept telling me he was playing me. I didn't say anything just listened. One BIL told me that he was sorry the way the family had ignored us this past 18 months. He said h is acting like he is 20 again and wants no responsibility. I just listened. Didn't want to H bash.
Last Christmas MIL and FIL didn't acknowledge me. It was no big deal. This year they sent me a check and H gave me a Mass card made out to Mr. and Mrs. H. I thought that was interesting.
H tm'd d12 a few times while we were there. He then called her when we got home. WHat really upsets me is that he tells her that because of how hard it is to be around s15 he didn't come. That the holidays are too hard because he lost his son. I really wish he didn't do that. Sibling rivalry is hard enough.
Anyway shortly after they hung up he called me. He again talked about s15 and we made some small talk. He was very down. I am sure his depression is real but his sister seems to feel it is his way to keep me around. She said he has everything: 2 women, a family who keeps inviting him, and a free place to live. I can't dwell on her words----just leaving him to God.
Anyway, H said he will be by today. S15 has swim practice all day. We shall see how H is. As his BIL said it is like he is stuck and he just can't or won't get unstuck. I just pray his does soon, but with the situation with s15 I feel like that is his card to stay in limbo and not come home. Hopefully the C will help him one way or another.
