The one thing that helps me (just a suggestion) is if I do think about how awkward any conversation your H is having. I can't imagine how odd that must be to know you should be one place and yet you are somewhere else probably having a bad time.
needtochange...I thought of this too...I can't imagine that deep down my H doesn't realize he SHOULD be here. As far as he is concerned it is over and this is his new and improved reality...nice, Christmas with only a few hours with your kids. Great choice! Anyway, later in the day it hit me...If H is meeting any of her family it will be hilarious what they will think! My H is 10 yrs younger than OW (H-29 OW-39)she has 3 kids ages 9 and up (2 from her 1st marriage and one from the second...that's right...she's twice D'd!). All I can picture is my H going on about how he has a 3 yr old D and a 9 WEEK old S to all of her family. "What a gem" they'll think. Also, H is on a high horse right now and acting like an arrogant, older than he is, know it all guy who thinks he's all that and a bag of chips....(this is the complete opposite of the H I married by the way), but I keep imagining him being this person in front of these people and how sad it would be just how stupid he would feel if had an sense right now! Funny.
I hope he is just as uncomfortable at his Grandma's tomorrow when he has to face his family.
Anyway...I'm glad today is over. It had it's ups as well as it's downs.
Today I am grateful for: - The joy in my D's face as she opened and played with her presents. I had such fun with her today! - My family who were here for Christmas dinner. - The wonderful and generous presents I recieved. - That I made it through the day. Cried a few times...thought I might crawl into a closet and stay there until it was over, but I didn't. And I had fun. I'm thankful for that.
I hope everyone else managed to have a good day too. And yes B...here's hoping tomorrow is better. 7 more sleeps 'til a brand new year! J~
M 35 H 29 M 4 yrs T 9 yrs D 3 S born 10/19/07 Bomb 09/10/07 Separated next day OW - broke up and H moved out 09/07/08 Status - still figuring this out