Still hopeful for some pleasant surprises

[SirPrizeMe]

Melissa, thanks for the support.

I know you are right that she needs to "experience the consequences of her actions", but the trick for me is about balance. I am trying to balance that part, with my willingness to change, and to accept her back.

We will have to sell the house and she will have to move. She is not going to like this. Furthermore if we divorce, I expect to move (with my job, my income, and my kids) back to my hometown. With no income or other reason to keep us from moving, she will have to move, too, if she wants to continue a relationship with her kids. (I fully expect her to do this). Again this will not make her happy.

Too bad! It's not what I wanted either!