and came home with a gift from the OW, and he was shocked.
This is wonderful for you Sara. Its odd, because H would be shocked a year ago, if I told *him* the story....
And I pray for numbness, or at least the strength to deal better.
This week I am looking into mediators and getting our accounts separated. If he won't move out then I will move forward with everything else. I thought today that I am fooling myself about him moving out. I am thinking that I am just escaping the pain from him, but I will be also losing precious time with my girls once this happens. This is forcing me to slow down a bit. I am nowhere near ready to hand them over to Daddy for a weekend.....they will be fine, he continues to always be an amazing father. But they will miss me horribly, and I, them.
I know me moving forward with the D/separation is anti-DB, so if anyone else has any suggestions as to how to handle this, I would love to hear it. I can't sit and watch this happen any longer. Not just watch the A with OW, but to watch his disrespect and lack of caring for me.
Had to add something. H has a strong dislike for my mother. Some of it is justifiable, other parts he has made up in his MLC/fog....
He has avoided family functions (my side) for months. Luckily he usually *is* working so I rarely have to 'fudge' the truth. Today, we were supposed (we being me and the girls) go to my mom's to open gifts. They usually come here, but I had changed the plans to avoid H. On their way home from my brothers, she called and asked if they could just stop by, they were tired, would just rather come see us instead of us coming to them. I said "fine" deciding H could leave the house if he so desired. He stayed, and was the 'old' H, stayed with us in the same room, interacted with my step dad (who he does like), and hugged my mother. Not sure why this happened, but it made for a peaceful visit.
For months H has been pricing big screens. I thought it would be for his dad's house when he moves out. Today, he was talking to my step dad about TV's and they measured our living room corner... crazy man....buy us a big screen then move out? Ok. I'm down with that....
