I know I didn't return it. I actually got it online. The idea came to me, and I jumped before it could get away. I have that feeling I put it somewhere safe. I may never find it! I think it has to be in this room, unless I put it under the tree. But it isn't there, so it has to be here.
I've tried to make sure I get the serious stuff in here. Nothing happens fast in my situation, so it leaves time for the fun. (Also, I kind of think that fun was something I wasn't doing enough, so maybe this is good for that, too.) Just to differentiate, no sex for three years is serious, not fun!
So here's some seriousness...
The realization that I don't even remotely miss her really bothers me. In the past two days I've celebrated the birthday of our youngest, and Christmas without her, and it doesn't even bother me a little bit. I'm close to being able to say I don't even care! So even if she decides at some point in the future (and it really can't be that far, I don't know how much patience is really left) that she wants to be married to me, I'm not sure I can say the same in return. How do I deal with that?
So there's some serious, pal! And, you are a pretty smart one, and have the female point of view, so any thoughts you've got are much appreciated! And jump on my thread anytime! Hey, if you start one know, I'll be more than happy to threadjack it, too. It's not a problem!
We like the traditional dinner too, but we got to the point where the feast at Thanksgiving was enough. So we sort of changed the tradition at Christmas to actually get more family time, and less work, and still get plenty to eat!
