Sandi, if he mostly never does things to your satisfaction and in a timely (according to you) way, then for you to keep expecting him to and getting upset when he doesn't is only making YOU nuts. I know it drives you crazy, but you are not likely to make him change. Can you live with this--- wait, wrong question... you HAVE been living with this. Can you live with this without making yourself nuts? What do YOU get out of making yourself nuts over this? You get to be righteous and distant. What good is that?
Some of these things-- if they're really important to you-- you may have to take them over yourself. Bill paying, bank stuff, yard stuff. UNLESS you can let them go and let him do them in his own time. If there's some legal liability or fines involved, I suggest you simply take them over. You can't keep fighting this battle and also keep your sanity.
Is there anything he does to your satisfaction around the house?
