A strange thing came over me once my wife put her ring back on. A strange realization that not every marriage should be saved. I held so strongly to the idea that everyone must fight in every way possible to save their marriage. In my mind it was only excusable to give up the fight if there was abuse of some sort. But that opinion changed and why I don't know.
I still very strongly believe in fighting for marriage but not in the same way.
Sometimes the other choice might be the right one. Or maybe one is not given a choice at all. I think my wife had her mind very made up at one time.
But anyway that's a really big discussion and one I'm not to into right now.
Today I am into gratitude. Gratitude that my marriage was saved. Gratitude for all on these boards. And lots more.
My wife and I have yet to be intimate. But the rings are on. We just got back last night from a wonderful romantic vacation. Last night she slept in our bed for the first time in years.
And we are working on getting there. While sitting in the hot tub with me she explained that she was still obviously having a hard time with physical contact but that she was trying. She said she knew I was too.
She is trying.
It seems strange that she would have this problem but I have my theories as to why and I am fairly confident I am correct. I am also confident that it is another growth period and a good thing. I think in the end it will have it's rewards.
