Well, WAW was suppose to bring 5D to me at 8:00 x-mas eve. At 8:15, she had yet to arrive so I called with the "are you ok". She said,"why?" I said because I expected you and 5D at 8:00. She then informed me that she was opening gifts with her family and would bring 5D at 9:00 in the morning. Completely changing the plans. I said I wished I would've known, I could have planned things differently. After a long pause, she said she would bring at 9:00 x-mas morning. I said have a merry christmas and she said you to.
So, after talking to my sister and her husband, they were not shocked at all. They have seen this done before and wanted me to raise a stink and just go get 5D then. I choose not to mess up time 5D was having with in-laws even though sister was right. I did not want to put 5D in the middle of things.
So, I called WAW back at 9:00. First thing I said was that I was not calling to complain or come and get 5D. I just needed her to bring 5D as early as possible because of x-mas plans and 9:00 was to late. She said good and that she was sorry she did not call me. She then told me she did this because of the misunderstanding on Wed. She then said she felt bad and could ask any of her family. I hope they reemed her for doing this because it simply is not right and she knows it. We agreed to this a month ago. Anyhow, she then started in on lawyer saying that they said it wouldn't be until next week before I would do anything. I said the secretary did not tell your lawyer right...mine is out of town nothing can be done. I then said I do not understand, we are talking about x-mas eve, then wednesday, now the lawyer, you even said we would meet 3 weeks ago to talk about matters and haven't. Big pause again. I then said I just don't understand why you are so angry with me. She said about what...and I said everything. Wed, why you are doing this everything. She did not have a coherent answer.
I then told her that you are making me out to be a lier in 5D's eyes. 5D was expecting and excited about spending x-mas eve night at my house and we had been counting the days before x-mas when going to school. Now, it is not going to happen at it makes me out to be a lier in 5D's eyes and it makes me unhappy. She listened said she was sorry.
I then got to tell her why I've been unhappy for so long. She listened to the whole thing and then I got to parallel with not getting 5D tonight and ruined my plans for x-mas morning and plans that followed. She said I was maticulous and that I should just get over it. I validated her and then said I am not that way anymore, and I thought out how I will do Santa differently. I know it is not perfect but it is the best I can do. I said I understand that you want Santa time with 5D but you agreed to this a month ago. She then said she just did it and never agreed. Direct contrast from her apology. I said I wrote it down...and you did to in your red binder and even said that is the day Santa comes, I then said I know you want to have Santa time and that is ok but would you bring 5D to my house as early as possible. Then, I said I was cold and was getting off the phone.
Overall, I actually felt a little positive about things because she listened to why I was unhappy for years and how I wanted to save money to buy house, take her on vacations, getaways, cruises but never had a dollar to do it and it made me miserable. She also apologized for what she had done. I don't know how she couldn't have because she is just wrong.
Well x-mas morning, she brought 5D at 8:15am. She wasn't going to get out of the car but I said some things to get. She stood outside while 5D got really excited about stuff in the house from Santa. I left her waiting a few minutes while 5D explored her gifts. Then I brought her gifts that 5D and I got for dog, cats, guinea pig, and 2 gifts from relatives. I then asked if she was going to open her gifts from 5D and she said another time. Set the schedule for 5D for next little while because she intended to change this also. She agreed. Pleasant but distant.
Not a lot of positive here, I imagine she didn't come in because this would be sharing each others life again. I plan on sending 5D gifts to her on 27th in the stocking 5D and I made for her.
Overall, I think she is confused, lonely, and definitely only thinking of herself. I am going to do all I can to remain as dark as possible. This may help bring her back, but if nothing else it will help me. I cannot continue to give WAW opportunities to say, do, or be unloving to me. It is clear she is not going to try any time soon. I feel like this is my only chance for her and for myself. To bad 5D in the middle
Sorry about the length...as I briefly reread this it sounds like I did most of the talking but she did and validate much more than it seems here. More of journal of my feels I suppose...PMA sux without your family on x-mas..
