Wii: Man, I feel for ya' brother. Is it really her house? I love that. If you're like me, the house was paid for by you, but you feel like an awkward starnger in it. My W. actually got mad at me one day last year when I went there to cook dinner for the kids. I did that every Tuesday and Thursday. I ran and she caught me coming out of the shower in the house I paid for, and came completely uncorked, as she would when I brought laundry there. "I didn't budget for YOU to shower and do laundry here". Uncle. Chu Hoi!!!! Don't shoot!!! The milk of human kindness. Your W. sounds a lot like that. Sarcasm, undifferentiated anger, NOTHING is right...ever. You could be bleeding to death on the floor, and she'd get pis*ed because it was dirty. My W. never got over the anger or the needing to always take charge, even though she wanted me to. Of course when I did, you know exactly what happened...Nothing was right! merry Christmas. I'm with you and your kids in spirit.