Why I am the Way I Am

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I don't know if this was what MJ was getting at, but it seems reasonable that one would have "hard general boundaries" and "relationship specific boundaries" that develop as the relationship does. For instance, "No drunks" is a hard general boundary. But one's boundaries regarding a partner's same-sex friendships might be set in different places depending on whether they had a clean slate on past infidelity or not. That's not a great example but it's all I could think of for the moment. I suppose another example might be if you had a general disinclination to babysit a man's puppy. But your tolerance of that might be greater or lesser depending on what else you were getting out of the relationship and how well your bunny was getting patted. Or if you stayed with a husband who credit carded you both into bankruptcy, you might thereafter have a "no debt" boundary in that relationship, whereas shared debt in moderation wouldn't usually be an issue for you. Just spitballing .... and Lil, congrats on the castfreeness of life.

MJ .... S. and I were discussing the Mojo Theory of Animals Both Wild and Domestic today. He was presenting a chronological view of the zoo .... puppy to monkey to wolf. I said, without thinking properly, "So, does that mean if I play with your monkey long enough, I get the wolf?"

Much monkey-style hilarity ensued.

Howzit feel to be famous?