Wow, Miss IC, I have to give you credit for getting to this place so quickly. You are a stronger woman than me for sure.
Ok, talked mom into making my dad a nice home cooked meal to take with us to the nursing home so I got a few more minutes.
LFL, I'm not so sure it's strength or if I'm at a certain place already. Red and Saffie have been a big help in their e-mails and it's helped to open my eyes to how life would be with and without IC. I've seen what it can be like with him (whether we can get back to that...we'll see) and I've made known the fear on here about the thought of losing him to cancer. I don't owe IC anything! But I owe it to myself to at least try. It's not going to be easy and I'm sure we'll have setbacks. Hell, it might not work at all but if I cut myself free from IC, I'll never know.
Originally Posted By: LustForLife
Just don't be surprised if you struggle now and then to stay the course. It is so hard. Those old resentments have a way of creeping back in. Just be aware of them. And of course, IC's response to you will be critical.
I'll be very surprised if we don't struggle! I think if I'm able to stick to the boundaries that I've set for myself, then I will be able to stay close to the course I've set.
People can condemn IC for what he did...I know I have. I get the feeling from talking with him and from what I know of him, that nobody will condemn IC more than IC himself. His past actions have showed me that he cares and why I'm giving him another chance. His future actions will dictate my forgiveness. It's there IC, it's there for you to have if you show me what I think you can. Knowing you IC I do, the hardest person he'll ever get forgiveness from is himself and I'm hoping someday he'll find it in his heart to do so.
Not in the business of condemning anyone. Most of us screw up somehow, at some point. I know I have. Not in the same way as IC, but in the general screw-up-oh-meter race of life IC can grab a ticket and get in line. No, it's not easy, this making amends and forgiveness and improving yourself thing. Takes years. Is in fact probably never quite over. But ultimately so worth it. I'm hoping for the best for both of you.
I'm flying home. We're a family, maybe a little torn and tattered....but still a family, and this is no way to spend Christmas.
You're an amazing woman, MissIC.
I don't know if this is a compliment or not, but IC is an awesome dad and to punish the girls like this is wrong. We have our personal issues to work out but this is not the time to run away, this is a time for the girls and they should be home.
I don't know if this is a compliment or not, but IC is an awesome dad and to punish the girls like this is wrong. We have our personal issues to work out but this is not the time to run away, this is a time for the girls and they should be home.
Yes, it was a compliment. And yes, I totally think you rock.
