That sounds like a good idea. She usually calls me afterwards anyways though, but maybe I should beat her to it once or twice. I really hope that we can keep the communication going again. The last two weeks were pretty rough.
I wouldn't try to beat her too it all the time If you go out somewhere, ask if she wants to do something, even if it's a week or so out. Obviously if it doesn't go so well, hold off, but I think it would be good to string one positive interaction off another.
Hey Jenny, I haven't heard the "itsoveritsoveritsoveritsover", but I have heard the "idon'tknowidon'tknowidon'tknowidon'tknow" which feels just as bad. So I know your pain. I know that the cycles are all part of it, but it's just hard to deal with it. When you're in a low part of the cycle it's hard to see yourself ever getting out of it. I hope and pray that 2008 will bring clarity to all of our lives. At least to me it seems like I've been living in a fog.
Brit, I was trying to chain things together last time, but I think that I put the links a little to close together and she pulled back. I feel like I'm starting over again so I'm going to take it slow. I'll think of something though. Thanks for the input.
Peace to all, B
Me: 29 W: 28 T: 10 M: 7 No kids 2 Dogs and 1 Cat With Parents: 09/16/07 Apartment: 10/13/07 Back Home: ~2/16/2008
What a sad and lonely night. I just got back from church and I cried through most of the service. I almost didn't go as I was even crying in the parking lot. I was fine for most of the day until I started driving to the service. I miss her so much. This is the first time in nine years that I won't be with her family tonight. I miss all of them. Being alone sucks a$$ big time...
Just throwing a little pity party. I hope you all are having a better evening... B
Me: 29 W: 28 T: 10 M: 7 No kids 2 Dogs and 1 Cat With Parents: 09/16/07 Apartment: 10/13/07 Back Home: ~2/16/2008
Welcome to the party! I'm having a beer right now. What'll you have? I've got beer, wine and a few mix drinks... B's bar is open and the music's pumpin...
Me: 29 W: 28 T: 10 M: 7 No kids 2 Dogs and 1 Cat With Parents: 09/16/07 Apartment: 10/13/07 Back Home: ~2/16/2008
I'm thinking a glass of wine would be nice! Maybe 2 or 3 if I wasn't breastfeeding....probably a good thing though because I couldn't handle the hangover!
M 35 H 29 M 4 yrs T 9 yrs D 3 S born 10/19/07 Bomb 09/10/07 Separated next day OW - broke up and H moved out 09/07/08 Status - still figuring this out
Just throwing a little pity party. I hope you all are having a better evening...
Eh, it's okay - I feel sort of disjointed since W left, as when she was here tonight with D and I, it was just like any other Christmas. Now she's gone for the night. At least I know she'll be back in the morning, at some point. No doubt it'll be really late in the morning and D and I will be going stir crazy waiting for her to get her butt over here.
Somehow I think this is all harder on her than it is on me. I realize that it's stupid to say that, considering the situation, but she just behaves as if she is very dejected right now. I guess that is the hand she drew though...
If you get a chance, look in my thread - I'm hunting for card ideas for W
If you go out somewhere, ask if she wants to do something, even if it's a week or so out. Obviously if it doesn't go so well, hold off, but I think it would be good to string one positive interaction off another.
