Oct 22nd W's OM walked away. It took just about 4 weeks before things became pleasant around here. We started goofing around together, flirting, kissing. It almost felt normal. At the end of the 4th week he made contact and she was gone completely - told me everything that had occurred in the past week was a lie and that she was just trying to be normal again.
The influence of an OP is insidious and long-lasting. They can be away and the spouse reconnects, but when the OP comes back they dive right back into the fog and any connection with the LBS is immediately denied. This is truly the rollercoaster from hell and we have to stay off of it.
It may be that the only solution is to separate physically so they can be with the OP full time. That has a way of turning their fantasy relationship into cold fogless reality.
M 63 W 40 M 4/91 S14/D9 bomb 7/6/07 D filed 8/3/07 final 2/4/08 thread
