Funny how you say your wife just won't pick up the stuff. I have always done all of the stuff. I even buy and wrap a gift for myself from "Santa". I always get what I want! I hung up a stocking for H too and Santa will fill it and leave him a gift. H wanted to do things the way we always do as far as gifts.
I am hoping that you haven't posted this evening because W is still there. If she didn't stay, I'm sorry. I know I was still hoping today that H would change his mind.