Thanks for dropping by. Tell me where your thread is and I will go look at it.
It is so difficult to do all this, especially with children in the picture. This is coming up to 5 months for me and it does get easier. It still will take a lot me time though.
My WAW still says she cares and would feel jealous if I found someone else. They still want some control. I know it would have been a good idea to accept her offer of going xmas shopping for our children and to accept that she pays for the xmas gifts but I have too much pride and can not take her offer.
Although she has left me in a mess, I will clear up that I have no money for xmas gifts for my children with them. I could have taken half the gifts that my WAW buys and put my name on them. Yes this would be better for my children's xmas but to me, it is not about winning or losing or even pretending, for me it is about pride, dignity and being honest to myself. I have done the best I can since the bomb and I am trying to teach my children the values that I have and prey that they take something from this mess for future use.
Children love money and gifts but the older ones will not be bought off. They want to see me at xmas and they miss me. They have told me they do not like OM and that their mother is not the same towards them. They do not like how they are being treated.
It is a crazy time and I have to hold on to what I believe in and my children, otherwise I would go loopy!
Please feel free to let me know your situation. I have found this board to be a God send for support.
How are you? thanks for dropping by. I really would like to change direction in careers if I can but need anything to start with so that I can get guaranteed money to get an apartment, etc.
I do want my wife back but I am detaching and need to concentrate on job, kids and myself. If she becomes interested in my new life and wants to reconcile, then great, if not, that's life.
Anyway, I think that we both have lots of work to do on ourselves and at this point, I do not feel that we would be ready to reconcile as it would go back to the same R and M. I do not want that and am sure she does n't either.
I miss your input and advice. Please drop by more often if you can.
My WAW still says she cares and would feel jealous if I found someone else. They still want some control.
I completely understand this. My W says that she does not care where I am when I go out, but I know she does care, because she always asks where I am or where I went.
M: 30 W: 29 D: 4 S: 2 M: 7 years Dropped bomb: 11/26/07 My sitch
Yeah.. Im thankful I have her from Dec 21-31. Her mom made that decision, I think so she has more time to be with OM.
I told my W.. how do you think that makes D feel when you dont even want to spend at least Christmas Eve or Christmas day with her? She responded, I spoke to D and she's ok with it. Sad.
So, tonight we went to church and then I allowed her to open the presents that I bought her. She's playing with her new Barbie Remote Control Skateboard lol.
Kids... gotta love em!
Hurtin: 32 WAW: 30 D: 8 Bomb: 10/05 Sep: 12/05 Back together 8/07 Bomb (OM): 11/07 Filed for D (me): 12/07
I know that it is all wrong man. It just beats the sh*t out of me they can do that. I can deal with them doing it to us but their own children. My wife does not want to deal with the children 24/7 anymore. They did it when we are together but not when they leave. Can somebody explain that to me?
Enjoy all the time you have with your D and try not to think about wife and what she is doing!
Are you seeing any family over the holiday?
My xmas present will be spending what time I can with my 4 kids tomorrow. I will not have much time with them but it will make my xmas.
