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[mrarow]

Hey IA
First Question answered is we decided together not to discuss the R till after her the 8th of January when she returns from trip to US with the 3 girls to Brothers wedding. I understand that part abut validating and hearing her and not bringing up the topic myself. I have been tiring to get away from talk before she talks about her feeling about OM as that I find very hard to listen to ad validate in anyway. I just want to kick the SOB in the ass to put it very nice. Taken all of me not to do anything stupid. My D-3 is actually D-11 She is eleven years old and very very smart and manipulating at this age. Love her so much! Wish she was not seeing this family destruct like its doing! Me and my W have been together for 14 years, married almost 13 years. I found out about her feelings for OM 11/26/2007. She has been steadily pushing me away farther ever since she opened up and started telling me how she has felt and I finally actually hear her!! She says its all to much to late, Loves other man thinks about him all the time. OM has told me he feels same about her and will not give up. My X best Friend!! His Wife of 15 years was her Best friend, NICE!!!GRRRRR anyway Merry Christmas and thanks for taking the time to read mythread and offer your advice and help. I have updated my info below to make it more understandable.