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Me 35, H 38; Together 13.5 yrs, M 7 Bomb 1 10/07/06 Sep'd 1/14/07 - 4/15 Piecing: 4/07 - 9/07 Bomb 3 10/11/07: Never loved you, let's separate 2/08 slowly improving 7/08 Piecing (7/25/08 rings back on!!) Current thread
'Twas the night before Christmas and Santa's a wreck. How to live in a world - that's politically correct? His workers no longer would answer to Elves, Vertically Challenged they were calling themselves.
And labor conditions at the north pole Were alleged by the union to stifle the soul. Four reindeer had vanished, without much propriety, Released to the wilds by the Humane Society.
And equal employment had made it quite clear That Santa had better not use just reindeer. So Dancer and Donner, Comet and Cupid, Were replaced with 4 pigs, and that looked darned stupid!
The runners had been removed from his sleigh; The ruts were termed dangerous by the E. P. A. |And people had started to ring for the cops When they heard loud noises upon their rooftops.
Secondhand smoke from his pipe had workers all frightened. His fur-trimmed red suit was judged `Unenlightened'. And to show you the strangeness of life's ebbs and flows, Rudolf was suing over unauthorized use of his nose
And had gone on Geraldo, in front of the whole nation, Demanding millions of bucks for `just' compensation. So, half of the reindeer were gone; and his wife, Who suddenly said she'd enough of this life,
Joined a self-help group, packed, and left in a whiz, Demanding from now on her title was Ms. And as for the gifts, why, he'd ne'er had a notion That making a choice could cause so much commotion.
Nothing of leather, nothing of fur, Which meant nothing for him. And nothing for her. Nothing that might be construed to pollute. Nothing to aim. Nothing to shoot.
Nothing that clamored or made lots of noise. Nothing for just girls. Or just for the boys. Nothing that claimed to be gender specific. Nothing that's warlike or non-pacific.
No candy or sweets, they were bad for the tooth. Nothing that seemed to embellish a truth. |And fairy tales, while not yet forbidden, Were like Ken and Barbie, better off hidden.
For they raised the hackles of those psychological Who claimed the only good gift was one ecological. No baseball, no football, someone could get hurt Besides, playing sports exposes kids to dirt.
Dolls were said to be sexist and should be passé And Nintendo would rot your poor brain away. So Santa just stood there, disheveled, perplexed He just could not figure out what to do next.
He tried to be merry, tried to be gay, But you've got to be careful with that word today. His sack was quite empty, limp to the ground Nothing fully acceptable was to be found.
Something special was needed, a gift that he might Give to all without angering the left or the right. A gift that would satisfy, with no indecision, Each group of people, every religion;
Every ethnicity, every hue. Everyone, everywhere-even you. So here is that gift, it's price beyond worth.
Do you want me to post it here for comments/feedback from others too??
No need to post it. I understand what you are saying. I am just going to go back into hibernation. Don't know what to do anymore. I think I am stuck for another 8 years. When son is 18 I can just up and leave. Kind of going through withdrawals today. Have not taken any pain killers or had anything to drink for two days. A funny thing is I really don’t feel like doing either. Just want to go to bed and wake up 5 years ago...
Husband
P.S Nikki,
I did stop for lunch half way through the "the novel". Thank you for putting so much thought in it. I really do appreciate EVERYthing you have done for me.
Maybe this summer we can take a ride in your Mustang with your top off........ The CAR top......
P.S.S I told W I wrote "my friend" about her slipper things and I said " SHE told me she was wondering what a "food massager" was.."
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
I'd like to do that too. I'd go back about 4 years ago though.
Foo Fighter wished for us all to be able to "beam" up to a spot to be together this Christmas Eve to blow off some steam and give each other some needed support in person!
Have a good Christmas, Okay?? You deserve it. You are, afterall, The Good Husband.
Merry Christmas.
SueS
ME: 42, H: 42, D6 Together: 18 yrs. Married: 15 yrs. Attended Retrouvaille - December 2009 Status: Working on it day by day
I understand what you are saying. I am just going to go back into hibernation.
Hmmmm if this is what you thought I was saying, I didn't make my point very well at all!
I think you do need to see some changes and some movement (one way or the other) in your sitch, and with how you've been feeling lately I think now IS a good time to do something to cause that movement.
What about trying the changes to your actions first (the hug/kiss things) and see what happens? If it's not well received, maybe it's time for a re-worked version of the letter. If it IS well received, well, you're moving the right direction - no need for the letter. Make sense??
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Don't know what to do anymore. I think I am stuck for another 8 years. When son is 18 I can just up and leave.
Heck people are frustrated with me for choosing to be "stuck" during the holidays... I can't even imagine choosing EIGHT YEARS of feeling like you are now.
If it's really all about your son I don't think him being 18 will make a whole lot of difference. He'll grow up having no idea what a healthy M looks like. There's the benefit of you both being there all the time - but I really don't think that's best for any of you (son included). My parents D'd when I was 19 or 20.. in college, didn't live at hom anymore.. it was still very hard on my, and still is to this day (you'll always have holidays to "split," etc).
I know it's not just about him though - it's about your love for your W, too. I can tell that from talking with you in Sonoma, from your letter, all that. Which means... it won't be easy anytime.. now, 8 years from now.
Not meant as a downer, just sayin' that I think you ARE right to take some kind of action to make things change sooner rather than later.
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Kind of going through withdrawals today. Have not taken any pain killers or had anything to drink for two days. A funny thing is I really don’t feel like doing either. Just want to go to bed and wake up 5 years ago...
(((H))))
I'm sorry. We all wish we had that time machine eh?
Really sorry you're having such a rough day. Now I kinda feel guilty for emailing you! Hope it didn't bring you way down.
Me 35, H 38; Together 13.5 yrs, M 7 Bomb 1 10/07/06 Sep'd 1/14/07 - 4/15 Piecing: 4/07 - 9/07 Bomb 3 10/11/07: Never loved you, let's separate 2/08 slowly improving 7/08 Piecing (7/25/08 rings back on!!) Current thread
Really sorry you're having such a rough day. Now I kinda feel guilty for emailing you! Hope it didn't bring you way down.
NO Nikki,
I don't think any of you realize how much your e-mail mean to me. I look every time for something from you or Saffie or yoyo (who has not written me in a while).... I feel so all alone when I don't hear from you guy's (figuratively speaking). Now I am not saying you have the figure of a guy, but I know you are not girls you are a women. Hey every storm has a rainbow right???? Tonight I will get to see what my W got me for x mas. And she will get her "Roomba". Can’t wait to see her follow it around the house.... I have been very good. I have noticed WE both have problems right now. IT is so hard though not to lash out and ask or say something about the OM. YES SAFFIE I KNOW IT WAS A ONE TIME THING BUT I NEED TO GET MAD AT SOMEONE......
Ok enough talking about yucky stuff. If you are happy and you know it clap your hands If you are happy and you know it clap your hands If you are happy and you know it then your face Will Shirley show it if you are happy and you know it clap your hand.......
Are you smiling?????????????????????
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
Guy was my maiden last name.. I'm used to being called a "Guy"!
The Roomba is seriously fun to follow around the house. I just finished watching my Scooba mop for me. It saves no time because I am too fascinated with watching the thing (and I've had it for a year!). But it's fun!
You can even get little outfits for them.
Me 35, H 38; Together 13.5 yrs, M 7 Bomb 1 10/07/06 Sep'd 1/14/07 - 4/15 Piecing: 4/07 - 9/07 Bomb 3 10/11/07: Never loved you, let's separate 2/08 slowly improving 7/08 Piecing (7/25/08 rings back on!!) Current thread
