Thanks for your good wishes, Miss IC. I hope next year finds us all healthier (emotionally and physically), happier, and wiser than we are now.


I joined this board in September 2004, distressed because of the lack of sex in my R with my BF. We had already been together two years-- horrendous years... (and I'll wonder til the day I die why I stuck around... I even wondered it at the time), and in 9/04 he had already been sober for four months. We've been to three couples counselors, and I've been to four other therapists, counselors on my own. We've attended a couple of workshops. Things are better in his life than they were when we started, but basically, things are no better in our R. The last time we had sex was January 8, 2007. He's under a lot of stress these days, granted, but we can hardly get through a phone call without his flying off into his stern, sarcastic, put-down tone. Even though I've been Jewish for 11 years, it still makes me sad to think of spending Christmas Eve alone... but that's what I'll be doing. He'll be at his mom's apartment. I understand his need to be with her (although I think it is a BIT excessive, since she won't have another chemo for six weeks), but I wish he would at least express a desire to be with me or regret that we're not going to be together. He could have invited me to sleep at the apartment (I said last week that that's what I would like to do), but I think his mom wants him all to herself. The last couple of times I've been over there, she has treated me very much like an outsider.

I need to take my own g.d. advice: when people tell you who they are, believe them! He is telling me every day who he is, where I fit into his life, what he thinks of me, whether he is attracted to me (not). GET A CLUE, LIL!?!?




So.... will I eventually be able to find a normal, stable, sex-loving, love-loving man? Have I gotten what I needed to get from this R??? I'm not getting any younger.


Merry Christmas to all my Christmas-celebrating friends. If anyone else is alone on Christmas Eve, jump on this thread! We can sing songs and tell stories!

xoxo \:\)


P.S. Got the cast off today, and only two weeks until I can put weight on it. Best thing: I can get it wet! Can take a shower without a plastic bag on my leg-- yippee! I'm not sorry the leg thing happened. It has clarified things for me.