My H has a whacky Mom ... [she] consistently place her boyfriends above her children. This weekend we were talking and he actually said, "She showed time and time again that sex and her relationships with men were more important than her children."
karen, the more you say about your H, the more convinced I am that they are twins separated at birth. Bf's mom also dated a lot when he was a kid (she D'd his dad when bf was a toddler). Bf told me that he used to go in his room, shut the door, and put his fingers in his ears so he couldn't hear her and her dates in the next bedroom.
Your H's mom is religious?? Bf's mom is a Preacher's Kid. Her dad was an uneducated circuit-riding Methodist preacher in rural Kentucky. She's almost 90, so this would have been in the 1920's and 30's. He was also an abusive parent to his children, but bf (the grandson) was close to him and got some of his "fathering" from him.
Bf is a wonderful father-- one of the best and most consistent things about him.
I would definitely describe his mom as wacky. Is that why neither of these men can have a simple, straightforward, affectionate relationship with a woman? Because their moms warped forever their view of womanhood?
