Huh. well.. something nice happened last night. she "initiated" something. Kinda \:D

She invited me to spend some online game time with her this coming week. "maybe". no firm date or schedule on it. So, I'll feel really happy about it when and if it actually happens ;\) But it was nice that she invited me in the first place.

Thing is, though.. I had to "initiate" the contact to start with, or we would have never have spoken.

Nothing in any marriage recovery book, seems to go 100% "by the book", for our relationship. The typical "back off and let spouse initiate" stuff? doesnt seem like a winner, if taken strictly at face value.

So, I think the only thing that I have to go by, is "keep doing what works, and stop what doesnt work".
I'm building my own theories on what might work, that is different from what I did while we were together. I'll keep them to myself for now though ;\)

Just keep your fingers crossed that my wife likes my behavior. If she likes it, then I'll keep doing it \:\)

My current status: june 2006. Wife ran out and filed D.
Finalized Jan 11, 2010, after 12.5 years M.
3 wonderful sons caught in the middle