That sounds *exactly* like something my H would say about his parents. Well, in fact, he did say they were petty and judgemental and he was ashamed of their behavior. If I had gotten them a gift for Christmas, I can almost guarantee the reaction from my H would have been the same.

I see you dropped by my thread and said that SPM's 2x4s helped you--can you elaborate?

OH-and Merry Christmas!!

Me-43
H-46
M 12 yrs 7/09
T 15
2 grown kids
bomb 7/05/07
H moved out 8/04/07
11/22/09 told him I quit;let's get ball rolling
Mid Dec- he isn't sure he wants D
End 2/2010-Starting to consider piecing