Update (proving once again you never know what will happen, OR how you will respond)

WAW brought kids over to my apt for our weekly exchange, er shuffle last night. She came in and talked about Christmas/kids for several minutes while OM waited outside in car. She is different. She was crying most of the time. The anger is gone, completely. She kept saying she didn't want to hurt anybody and didn't want to "mess up" the kids (there was a time when that was not a concern of hers). She seemed genuinely upset that she is doing just that.

She asked to take kids to her family's Christmas Eve tradition without me (she had suggested we go together last week and I had agreed). I asked if she was taking OM. She said no and began to cry commenting her uncle had asked the same question. I comforted her saying if she's going to marry him one day that could afect her decision. she rolled her eyes slightly and commented their relationship is ""nothing like that".(She has commented often that there is no display of affection from him, he made it very clear he wants NO commitment. It seems to be just sex and companionship)

She then asked if she could have the kids alone for a time on Christmas day. I agreed that she could although that was not our original agrement. I'm trying to feel my way through this and be "human" about it. She really seemed to appreciate that. We talked about our similar feeling of loss when we don't have the kids; missing them, silence (deafening) in our residences, etc.

I asked if we were exchanging gifts on the way to OM's car. She loked shocked/hurt and said, "I got you gifts." I explained I had something for her, but wasn't sure what we were doing.

After she got home she called to see if I was OK, mad at her. I told her "no, I still love you." She replied, "I love you too."

As I try not to have expectations I can't help but wonder:

1. Is she at the end of replay and realizing the damage she has done/is doing or is this just a little seperated family holiday depression?

2. Or, was I simply manipulated by her to give her what she wanted?

I'm leaning toward #1 as the tears were real and she didn't have to call after she got home as I had basically agreed to give her what she wanted (more time alone with our kids on Christmas)

What do you think, guys/gals?

Last edited by sleeper; 12/24/07 03:55 PM.
"The answers are within you" (can't remember who). Unfortunately, so is the bullshit.