Alpha Soldier Guy annoys me a bit, LFL. I'd let him go. Simply because, at the time it counted, he couldn't bring himself to speak the word "stay". Can't build a life on that word, as you're finding, but can't build anything without it.
Well, bringing this back around to Corri's point about honesty. Alpha guy was always honest I think. He told me he was a little hung up on his ex girl-friend and wasn't really ready for a serious R. He also thought I was too soon out of my own M. So why should he say stay if he didn't mean it? I certainly wouldn't want him to lie about something so serious. If he came up to me today and professed his love for me I think I'd be in serious turmoil. I'm still hung up on him (that's obvious) and I think he may be still hung up on me, against his better judgment. Live and learn.
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But what is it that you're hung up on LFL? I don't get it.
I'm not saying he should have said "stay" at all if he didn't mean it. I'm saying there's a better than average chance he'd never have said it at all. Yes, he contacted you later and asked if you were single. Probably wouldn't have minded picking up where you left off. That's a long way from a "stay".
Don't underestimate the "stay". Trust me, the men don't. I'm married now because someone said "stay", and I did. One thing you do know about your h is that you are the one he wanted to say it to.
