Please help--Need advice!!!

[Patrick325]

Yes, I have checked out at the library 5 times already. I have to say it really makes me feel better after I read the section on MLC. I am getting better at not thinking about it. It's hard though, mainly because my kids come to stay with me and talk about what they did at his house. My one D14 called me up yesterday wanting me to pick her up because she said since mom was acroos the street most of the time she might as well stay with me instead. I felt so angry that she was now getting to my kids. But I kept my cool and asked my W if it was OK if she came with me to my Brother inlaw'sfor dinner. She was a little angry but decided it was OK. My other two twin D11 were playing around on the phone while she left them home but they didn't care. I'm hoping that the kids start to realize that this guy is part of the reason our family is split and treats him accordingly but I don't promote it. I have told them in the past I don't want to hear anything about him but I have decided to let them say what the will since I am getting better at handling it. I just feel very split as to wondering if they are having a PA or they are just friends. I am sure that my wife has feelings for him but I'm not sure about him. I hate him for doing this to us whether he considers himself just a friend or not. What kind of friend would sit back and watch someone tear up their family and just keep hanging out with her when you know it is hurting her kids and destroying her marriage? I figure he is one of two things--the dumbest man alive or a snake who is trying to(or already has) gotten into my wifes pants. I hope her moral compass is still in tact because she always had a very strong moral character. But I feel like she is going to push for a D so she can start to take their R to the next level. I am so scared at times. Other times I am able to put my heart in God's hand and know that whatever happens is part of his plan for me. I just don't know how my life can get any better for my kids and I unless she asked me to come back and ended this EA. This has made me a stronger person so far, but I have weak moments too.