"Gawwwrrsh, where's muh brain?" (pulling open sack pants. "Oh, thar it is."
THIS is how I know you are off your game. That's Goofy, not Scarecrow. And there never WAS a wizard in Oz, just an illusion. And Dorothy was never lost.
RU calling my impression of a Hollywood classic movie character goofy?
Cut me some slack, jack. My only other option was to mimic Michael Jackson from The Wiz.
Then I would have had to make some lame joke about finding his brain in, ahem, someone else's pants:
tap-tap-tap...microphone squeal: Didja hear Michael Jackson shut down Bloomingdale's for Christmas so he could have the store all to himself?
Yep. He saw a big advertisement announcing all children's pants would be half off in Bloomingdale's through Christmas.
Goofy enough for ya? Hm? Good. I'll be completely off my game by New Year's. I think the fact that this is my second pedophilia reference in one day attests to that inevitability as well.
Verry Merry to you and yours
-Stigmata-
The difference between a warrior and an ordinary man is the warrior views everything as a challenge; the ordinary man views everything as either a blessing or a curse.
-Yaqui shaman Don Juan-
...and that holds 2x true for nice guy wussies, DJ
(blackfoot) What is going on with you BB? Im curious if your still filling your 401k for your WAW.
Heh. "No" on the 401k. I'm not one to use a hundred words when a thousand will suffice but here's the nutshell: laid off July '06, got a new and better (with one caveat) job August '06. Thus, no longer paying into 401k (also, covered kids but not W under new company's health insurance). Last March W tells me she's going to file for disability. After much soul searching, I decide to change from 50/50 custody to having the boys with me every other weekend and seeing them once during the week. That was predicated on the fact that I work 50 miles from where they (and I at the time) live with horrendous traffic between the two locations, so it seemed the best use of parental resources. Later it turned out she wasn't eligible to file for disability.
In September I had my lawyer file for D after no movement on the issue by W for months and months despite continuing assurances she wants to get the D as quickly as possible. Last month I moved much closer to work and W got a job. Her job requires some weekend duty so we're changing custody to where I have the boys either on a 2 to 1 weekend rotation or 3 weekends a month.
W's behavior consistently reaffirms that I'm much better off now. I've got an interesting story about when she miscarried OM's baby in May (ever seen a human fetus?) and many others. She seems crazy but she just lacks the ability to handle more than moderate stress constructively. The boys tell me she and OM broke up last weekend (which would put an end to a 32 month long distance R). I don't think that will change anything. My desire is that nothing will change, except maybe she'll expend some effort in coming up with a mutually acceptable property settlement/custody agreement and we'll be D sooner rather than later. If it goes to court, it will probably drag out until June.
Being away from her has been the best thing for me. I'm not convinced that the two of us being apart has been the best thing for the boys, but it's possible. They've both become incredibly proficient on their guitars during this stretch, which amazes me because I'm so crap at it.
As for the rest of this thread...everyone knows that genius is rarely appreciated in its own time.
Stop WaitingFeel EverythingLove AchinglyGive ImpeccablyLet Go
Don't know what you implied concerning me, but...... Well Hi.
Lou
Hey Original G ... almost missed you. Had a few minutes.
I was mischief-making. SG made a comment to BF along the lines of, "maybe Fs will listen to what you have to say" and I was chuckling about the responses to his own thread were 5-1 F to M, with you being the lone amigo.
When BF Hutton speaks ... (criketscricekts) everyone (Fs) listens.
LMAO I sleigh me.
(yes, that was intentional on this Christmas Eve day. Taking bow.)
Glad you are still hanging in there with BB. You're a good man, L. Hope she's not complaining about the shades of her toast lately and is doing things for you, a la:
"Mmm, BB, I sure would like to have your (insert BB recipe here) tonight. Souund good?
BB: What? Why would I do that? I don't want that.
OG: Hm, because it's delicious and I would appreciate it.
And hopefully she is mixing in some rubs of her own in addition to your foot rubs, a la:
Hey, BB, my back's real stiff today. I could really use a nice long back rub on the couch. And if you do a good job I just might be convinced to give you an extra special foot rub with peperrmint lotion later. And you definitely don't want to miss out on that.
It's solid psychology, based on ego. And not the way one would think. Asking your SO for favors, no matter how small, boosts their own ego in that they feel closer connected to you due to the fact that they feel their acts are much appreciated by you. Makes em feel all warm inside (the rotten egocentric bastards).
Merry Christmas big guy
-Stigmata-
The difference between a warrior and an ordinary man is the warrior views everything as a challenge; the ordinary man views everything as either a blessing or a curse.
-Yaqui shaman Don Juan-
...and that holds 2x true for nice guy wussies, DJ
Good show Mojo. Good to see some moms comfortable/unfazed with/by their sons' sexual exploration.
So you don't think it's weird that I hope that he's getting laid now that he's off being self-sufficient at 19?
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No, wasn't reflecting on the Mojos. What most people don't know is the F initiates nearly 75% of the time; but neither party is privvy to the transaction. F monkeys actually go over to the Ms and lift them to their feet before presenting their rear ends when they're in heat. Humans it's more subtle. Since 93% of human communication is via body language the Ms often miss the cues but they're there ... and the Fs initiate them most of the time even if they don't realize it.
Oh, I agree. I guess it just depends on how you define or limit the term "initiate". IMO, in order for sex to occur the female has to first feel secure and then signal availability and at that point the male will "initiate" sex. However, one could regard actions that the male took to make the female feel secure as a form of initiation or actions the male might take to make the female feel excited enough to go into heat as initiation. OTOH, very strong signaling of availability by the female will obviously be seen as initiation by the male. This is why women are often put into a double bind sexually. If a woman signals availability too weakly, the signal isn't read. If she signals too strongly her signal will be read as a sign of dominant initiation rather than submissive availability. If her strong signal is read as dominant initiation then a man may react either with *ss-guarding "You can't dominate me." behavior (read her behavior as too masculine to be attractive) or fall submissive horny monkey to her (which might be good fun about 1/3 of the time but not really what the female wants most of the time and therefore causes her to be frustrated.)
The thing that threw me for a loop when I first started dating again was that middle-aged modern men need you to give them pretty blatant "permission" in order to be sexual. So, this throws another little spin into the mating dance. At first I found it confusing and annoying but now I kind of like it because it fits right in with my tendency to be a serious tease.
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Mr. Mojo rejecting you wasn't about you, Mojo.
Actually, that's where I take issue with GP. Some of your convos with GP annoyed me, admittedly.
Mr. Mojo does not not like you, as GP suggested. Just the opposite. I would say he always loved you, in fact. Still does, I bet.
IMO he he does not like himself very much, if at all.
You need to cut GP some slack. The man was trying to get laid. I agree with you and I agree with GP. I do think my 2bx loved/loves me and I also think that he didn't/doesn't like me and I also think that a lot of his dislike was/is due to the way I mirrored his own self-loathing. Because I've been dealing with financial cr*p recently, I was thinking about when 2bx and I were young and seriously impoverished and I would on occasion, literally sing the song "Even though we ain't got money..." as I puttered merrily about with a naked baby on my hip cooking bean burritos, again. I'm sure you can well imagine my 2bx's dark, mutterings in response.
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Unfortunately at the regrettable expense of your near 20 year R, (which is nothing to sneeze at) you cannot do this for him, as you already know since you're a smart cookie.
Yup. Even on a good day when anecdotes like the one above seem funny to me and I truly wish my 2bx future happiness, I know this remains true.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
though mother would probably raise an eyebrow to me responding to an F with "Lust" in her handle
Well, I really don't care for mamma's boys, so...
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I'm glad you're sticking in there with H. I don't believe it would have been better if he WA for an OW. I think not having sex with you and having it with an OW would have been the ultimate insult and the dealbreaker for you. No way in Hades you'd get past that, from what I've seen from your swings.
lol Probably true Stig. But another reason I probably wouldn't be getting back together with H if he had OW would be because he would not have had a sexual R without being "in love" I think. He's never been the casual sex type so if I found out about OW, I would have known it was truly over.
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I also believe OP don't walk away without a plausible reason. Something in him snapped from some kind of pressure he brought upon himself with respect to your R. I think imagining life w/o you and the kids as a family unit was a wake-up call he needed to step outside his own head and want to work on rebuilding your R -- this time by including his life partner, the big dummy.
Yep, he's a big dummy alright. Now look at the pickle we are in.
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Your OM would be an ego blow to any man. We all like to think our Fs would remain celibate esp. since we had no OW driving our actions. Not saying it's fair; just the way of the male ego/sense of possessiveness.
I get that Stig. But I certainly don't feel bad about it. It was the best thing for me at the time and frankly, H deserved an ego blow after what he did. I know it is hard for him now because he knows I did have that "fantasy sex" with this guy. But I also have to live with him choosing that "fantasy life" without me for all that time as well. Both suck.
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But that's a discussion for your thread and would mean I would have to post more. Egads.
Oh, you love to post. Don't try it. Feel free to write as many long-winded diatribes on my thread as you want. lol
I think BF would agree with you completely. Especially the line where you say that he could be soft because he was already wolf. The point BF is trying to make is that women won't care for men or find them attractive when they're soft and unable to be wolf, IOW, when they need it most.
Well, I agree with that, all puppy and no wolf is a turn off. But my impression was that BF was saying he was basically wolf, no puppy. That doesn't work either I think. He even mentioned he Only sees bunny in females. Another huge mistake. But why would he listen to a little soft bunny like me......
Well, I agree with that, all puppy and no wolf is a turn off. But my impression was that BF was saying he was basically wolf, no puppy. That doesn't work either I think.
Okay, let's say you are sitting on a park bench petting your cute little bunny. An attractive man in a leather jacket approaches and he either:
A) Doesn't appear to have a puppy with him. B) Does have a puppy with him. c) Doesn't have a puppy but says "I once had a puppy but it died. Really, I had to kill it because it was so injured. I see you have a bunny. You better keep it away from me because clearly I don't know how to care for vulnerable animals."
Which guy are you more likely to take home to f*ck and feed?
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
Good show Mojo. Good to see some moms comfortable/unfazed with/by their sons' sexual exploration.
So you don't think it's weird that I hope that he's getting laid now that he's off being self-sufficient at 19?
I don't. My oldest son has always been the smartest kid in class. While he likes and was good at sports, in most other ways he was the typical nerdy kid who was somewhat shy and lacking in confidence socially. His first girlfriend was at 20. It is wonderful seeing what this sweet girl has done for his sense of confidence. While I am a little concerned that she is 26 and he is just 21, she is a truly sweet girl and they seem great together. I do worry that he will end up with her without experiencing going out with anyone else, but I really like her. It would be hypocritical to be on a board dedicated to trying to have a fulfilling sex life and not want the same for my children.
I will admit this attitude is tougher to maintain with my 20 y/o daughter who is living with her bf, but I (at least intellectually) can recognize that this difficulty is rooted in societal mores. I want my children to have fulfilling sex lives. My wife is so uptight about this. If I start to kiss her more than just a goodbye peck she objects with "What if the children come in?" My response is that they have heard us fight. They have felt the instability. It would probably do them good to see their parents showing loving gestures to each other.
So Mojo, that is my very long-winded way of saying "No, it isn't wierd of you. It is being intellectually honest".
Gone the carvings and those who left their mark. Gone the kings and queens, now only the rats hold sway.
