I was hanging out with a couple of my sisters at my Mom's apartment today and we were talking about the whole zoo concept. My mother immediately said "I'm a dragon." Then a while later in the convo she put me and my sisters into hysterics because she said "Remember girls, it's better to have a bi-polar mother from whom you inherited prettiness and intelligence than to have never been born at all."
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
I'm moving this over here to your thread... BF's is getting all kinds of convoluted...
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However, I don't think that I need to self-protect in the manner you describe. I'm perfectly content to f*ck up a few potentially great relationships if necessary. I might even discover some new animals for my zoo along the way. I sure as sh*t do need to get that lioness in shape. I've got some definite boundary forming issues around financial and related matters due to my FOO. I'm sure you can relate.
I guess I don't necessarily see the Lioness as the great protector... though it certainly can involve protection. I see the Lioness as being the one who just 'gets it done.' No matter what the 'get it done' may involve.
I think, probably because of my shrink... my Lioness has been... uh... retrained? And it took lots of practice to move his theory into reliable action... and then to an intuitive level... to know that those instincts are there for a dam good REASON, and I had best listen and respond... NOW.
My Lioness is still not a full capacity, as my... bunny has a way of making her pause. head shake. OR... she doesn't listen enough. Tough balancing thingy there.
In your case, I think a lot of times... in absence of your bunny or Lioness stepping up, your monkey comes in and saves the day... cuz... you've been left with a pound of rotten lemons. Your Lioness turns up her nose, the bunny has no inclination to use poor ingredients to make lemonade... so the monkey says... 'hey... let's throw them and see how they splat against the wall... that could be fun!!'
Seems rather healthy to me, actually.
But in any event... I'm saying to get your Lioness in shape, not so much because you have loose ends to tie up, but because a Lioness in top form bolsters the bunny and the monkey and gives the cow a much needed rest. BALANCE.
So you get her in shape for the next time you head back out into the jungle... your instinct guides you. All your senses are more honed... and when that happens, the BUNKY can play til her heart's content... even after the street lights come on, without fear for her safety... or the lure of men with candy and warm cars.
In your case, I think a lot of times... in absence of your bunny or Lioness stepping up, your monkey comes in and saves the day... cuz... you've been left with a pound of rotten lemons. Your Lioness turns up her nose, the bunny has no inclination to use poor ingredients to make lemonade... so the monkey says... 'hey... let's throw them and see how they splat against the wall... that could be fun!!'
Seems rather healthy to me, actually.
Yeah. I was thinking along exactly the same lines. Only I couldn't have put it so well.
she said "Remember girls, it's better to have a bi-polar mother from whom you inherited prettiness and intelligence than to have never been born at all."
I wasn't there but I didn't like the "never been born part."
It sounds like something a teen ager would say to a parent when the teen just heard s/he was grounded for a month.
This would have been more acceptable. she said "Remember girls, it's better to have a bi-polar mother from whom you inherited prettiness and intelligence than a mother that was paranoid and wouldn't let you do anything.
I guess I don't necessarily see the Lioness as the great protector... though it certainly can involve protection. I see the Lioness as being the one who just 'gets it done.' No matter what the 'get it done' may involve.
Okay, I thing I get what you're saying here and I agree. BF said something about dating "with intent" and "getting something done" implies intent. I agree with what you said to BF about how everybody has an intent when they date. However, I think that my intent is different than your intent and also different from BF's intent. You want more security and commitment than me ( a boyfriend) and BF wants less romance and affection than me (a f*ckbuddy). What I want primarily, but not exclusively, is a lover and the task of finding a lover involves leaving yourself open to possibilities. So what if I fall a little bit in love and a little bit more in lust with men who I can't count on to take out the trash for me 5 years from now? They fall a little bit in love and lust with me too and it's oh so very whatever-word-means-sweet-and-hot-at-the-same-time while it lasts.
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So you get her in shape for the next time you head back out into the jungle... your instinct guides you. All your senses are more honed... and when that happens, the BUNKY can play til her heart's content... even after the street lights come on, without fear for her safety... or the lure of men with candy and warm cars.
I do need to get my lioness in shape but I want to be lured by men with candy and warm cars 'cause then we can get all sticky and hot together.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
Wow. Okay. This is cool. I have to think about this, because you and I come at it from so WAY DIFFERENT POINTS of perspective, and I guess... I just never saw it until now.
Wow. Okay. This is cool. I have to think about this, because you and I come at it from so WAY DIFFERENT POINTS of perspective, and I guess... I just never saw it until now.
Welcome, my friend, to the HD girls table in the lunchroom.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
Dont you worry about STDs? I do. (Rubbers... only give me so much in terms of 'sense of security.') And because of that, I think I tend to stick to one person at a time. Tho quite honestly... that doesn't really do a girl much good if the person you are dating is out there with his dip stick is various cans of oil, and on top of it, not protecting himself, and therefore, not protecting me. So I MAY AS WELL be out there, doing my own thing, picking my own people, having my own fun.
I have the ability to be emotionally detached enough to have and enjoy a lover (or maybe two or three). To be, as you say, a little bit in love and a bit more in lust. Actually, I'm probably better suited to that than a LTR.
Honestly... I can actually BE the cold/heartless, take-what-I-want-and-leave person it seems Blackfoot wants everyone to think he is. I could probably stun even him. That kind of person has no care for security or commitment or much of anything else, for that matter. Shudder.
When you have lived a life of no rules, no ethics, no morality, no sense of fairness, or what is minimally decent... those things become something you don't fool around with, and you don't take lightly.
That makes it sound like I'm looking for somebody who is perfect. I'm not. I'm looking for honesty... and I'll be damed wondering why that is so flipping hard to find.
So in the absence of finding that... I guess I am kinda at a loss as to how to proceed.
That makes it sound like I'm looking for somebody who is perfect. I'm not. I'm looking for honesty... and I'll be damed wondering why that is so flipping hard to find.
Hmmm...maybe because you are not being honest with yourself. Honesty sounds good and all, but I still think you are wound a little tight (and I mean that in the nicest way possible) You seem to like control. If my perception is wrong, I apologize. That's just what I see. Or maybe it's in the way you seek this "honesty" that makes people feel like you are controlling? Or maybe you give off vibes that they can't be honest with you because you will give them the smack down. I dunno...
Clearly I have too much time on my hands this morning...Christmas Eve and everything. H actually had to work today so the Christmas blitz of way too many houses, food, and bottles of wine doesn't start til later.
