well, all hell broke loose, it is over and done

[limbo]

((((Cat)))

I think that you are doing amazingly, and I know how hard this is, our h sound very similar in there worst!
I hung in because I knew that the man who was doing all of this crap wasn't the man I married, and I knew that he was in there somewhere.
I think that they have to hit a wall before they can see what is happening, and its a slow process for them to wake up.
Even if you don't get back as a couple, for me it was important to bring the good man back for the sake of the kids.
So hang in there, and take care of yourself.

I hope that you have a good Christmas! I will be thinking of you!