though mother would probably raise an eyebrow to me responding to an F with "Lust" in her handle
Well, I really don't care for mamma's boys, so...
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I'm glad you're sticking in there with H. I don't believe it would have been better if he WA for an OW. I think not having sex with you and having it with an OW would have been the ultimate insult and the dealbreaker for you. No way in Hades you'd get past that, from what I've seen from your swings.
lol Probably true Stig. But another reason I probably wouldn't be getting back together with H if he had OW would be because he would not have had a sexual R without being "in love" I think. He's never been the casual sex type so if I found out about OW, I would have known it was truly over.
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I also believe OP don't walk away without a plausible reason. Something in him snapped from some kind of pressure he brought upon himself with respect to your R. I think imagining life w/o you and the kids as a family unit was a wake-up call he needed to step outside his own head and want to work on rebuilding your R -- this time by including his life partner, the big dummy.
Yep, he's a big dummy alright. Now look at the pickle we are in.
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Your OM would be an ego blow to any man. We all like to think our Fs would remain celibate esp. since we had no OW driving our actions. Not saying it's fair; just the way of the male ego/sense of possessiveness.
I get that Stig. But I certainly don't feel bad about it. It was the best thing for me at the time and frankly, H deserved an ego blow after what he did. I know it is hard for him now because he knows I did have that "fantasy sex" with this guy. But I also have to live with him choosing that "fantasy life" without me for all that time as well. Both suck.
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But that's a discussion for your thread and would mean I would have to post more. Egads.
Oh, you love to post. Don't try it. Feel free to write as many long-winded diatribes on my thread as you want. lol
