Good show Mojo. Good to see some moms comfortable/unfazed with/by their sons' sexual exploration.
So you don't think it's weird that I hope that he's getting laid now that he's off being self-sufficient at 19?
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No, wasn't reflecting on the Mojos. What most people don't know is the F initiates nearly 75% of the time; but neither party is privvy to the transaction. F monkeys actually go over to the Ms and lift them to their feet before presenting their rear ends when they're in heat. Humans it's more subtle. Since 93% of human communication is via body language the Ms often miss the cues but they're there ... and the Fs initiate them most of the time even if they don't realize it.
Oh, I agree. I guess it just depends on how you define or limit the term "initiate". IMO, in order for sex to occur the female has to first feel secure and then signal availability and at that point the male will "initiate" sex. However, one could regard actions that the male took to make the female feel secure as a form of initiation or actions the male might take to make the female feel excited enough to go into heat as initiation. OTOH, very strong signaling of availability by the female will obviously be seen as initiation by the male. This is why women are often put into a double bind sexually. If a woman signals availability too weakly, the signal isn't read. If she signals too strongly her signal will be read as a sign of dominant initiation rather than submissive availability. If her strong signal is read as dominant initiation then a man may react either with *ss-guarding "You can't dominate me." behavior (read her behavior as too masculine to be attractive) or fall submissive horny monkey to her (which might be good fun about 1/3 of the time but not really what the female wants most of the time and therefore causes her to be frustrated.)
The thing that threw me for a loop when I first started dating again was that middle-aged modern men need you to give them pretty blatant "permission" in order to be sexual. So, this throws another little spin into the mating dance. At first I found it confusing and annoying but now I kind of like it because it fits right in with my tendency to be a serious tease.
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Mr. Mojo rejecting you wasn't about you, Mojo.
Actually, that's where I take issue with GP. Some of your convos with GP annoyed me, admittedly.
Mr. Mojo does not not like you, as GP suggested. Just the opposite. I would say he always loved you, in fact. Still does, I bet.
IMO he he does not like himself very much, if at all.
You need to cut GP some slack. The man was trying to get laid. I agree with you and I agree with GP. I do think my 2bx loved/loves me and I also think that he didn't/doesn't like me and I also think that a lot of his dislike was/is due to the way I mirrored his own self-loathing. Because I've been dealing with financial cr*p recently, I was thinking about when 2bx and I were young and seriously impoverished and I would on occasion, literally sing the song "Even though we ain't got money..." as I puttered merrily about with a naked baby on my hip cooking bean burritos, again. I'm sure you can well imagine my 2bx's dark, mutterings in response.
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Unfortunately at the regrettable expense of your near 20 year R, (which is nothing to sneeze at) you cannot do this for him, as you already know since you're a smart cookie.
Yup. Even on a good day when anecdotes like the one above seem funny to me and I truly wish my 2bx future happiness, I know this remains true.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
